本研究探討台灣地區男性大學生及研究生搭訕場域經驗，三項探索議題為:一、搭訕歷程的情感初衷以及心理的最初動念；二、搭訕歷程的心理認知層面，包括搭訕者心裡頭的掙扎，對搭訕者本身行動的解讀；三、對於男生搭訕女生之失敗因素及成功策略。
本研究以台灣地區男性大學生與研究生為研究對象，覓求適合本研究的受訪者10人，透過訪談方式，分析並詮釋訪談所得資料文本。並從中歸類成「意念千百轉，終為伊人故」、「行行重行行，過站車不停」、「臨行千萬計，妙招何所依」以及「末頁-搭訕者的懸念」等四個經驗主題。
本研究發現如下：一、男性搭訕的動念與想結交正妹朋友或是心儀的女性有關，且偶爾心起色念。搭訕對象如果長相出眾，則特別會興起想要與之交朋友的動念。搭訕的當下通常腦中出現一片空白前去行動，但更多的時候，事前的幻想與「性」有關，充滿相當天馬行空的思緒；二、心理的掙扎來自被拒之慮，害怕顯得輕佻無禮。選擇不搭訕以及搭訕前的掙扎，主因常是害怕被拒的尷尬。同時，搭訕者也自覺這種搭訕行為是較輕浮的；三、把失敗歸因於緣分，以求安心無怨。認為搭訕成功憑藉的是天時、地利、人和，一次的失敗並不代表自己不夠好；四、搭訕行動多以旁敲側擊、迂迴並進，以能適可而止；五、搭訕的成功態度在「誠」，失敗態度在「急」。失敗的因素為「戒急躁、勿裝熟；休歹意、斂惡念」；搭訕成功的策略為「意態沉、氣勢穩；心意誠、身形正」。

關鍵詞：搭訕、人際關係、場域經驗、質性研究

The purposes of this study were to explored : (a) the initial motivations and the affections of courting. (b) the cognitive process of courting, including the ambivalence in the mind, and interpret the action of courters. (c) the failed factors and the successful strategies whether male college and graduate students courted girls in Taiwan.
The texts which analyzed and interpreted were from the interviews of 10 male college and graduate students in Taiwan.
The texts could be categorized into four topics: (a) the amazing appearance of female which motivates the action. (b) the variety of ideas emerged in the subjects’ mind.(c) how to succeed in courting. (d) the concern after courting. These four topics clearly described the experiences when male college and graduate students courted opposite gender.
The followings were the results from this study: (a) the motivations of courting abou male were related to the desires to make friends with beautiful girls, which were sometimes resulted from fantasy of sex.(b) the ambivalence about courting was based on the fear of being rejected. The male college and graduate students did not want to be regarded impolite and frivolous. Choosing to court was by the embarrassment in courting, and the courters also thought it was impolite to court. The reason why they decide not to court girls they like is because of the embarrassment after they failed. (c) the courters will attributed their failures of courting to “yuan” (destiny belief),and they thought that a successful courting relies on favorable times, geographical position,and conditions of the people. They wouldn’t think themselves not good enough after only one failure.(d) The strategies of courting should be indirect. Besides, it should stop before going too far. (e) the successful courting strategies should depend on sincerity, and the failed ones on impoliteness and frivolity.

Keywords: courting, interpersonal relationships, field experience, qualitative research

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